Conduct
One standard, and what breaking it costs
Every member signs the same page before they are let in. Treat every member with kindness, honesty and respect. Everything else is that sentence applied — to a conversation, a commission, a swap, a gathering and a dance card.
The standard
One sentence, signed before anybody is let in
Treat every member with kindness, honesty and respect. That is the whole of it, and the rest of the code is that sentence applied to the situations where people find it hard.
It is signed at the application, before an application is even considered. Nobody arrives here without having read what the room expects, and nobody can claim later that they had not.
What ends a membership
These are not warnings
Nothing on this list is a strike system. A member who does one of these loses their membership, their storefront and the room.
Abuse and harassment
Emotional abuse, harassment or shaming of any member, in a message, a comment or a room.
Dishonesty about who you are
Lying about your identity, your photographs or your intentions. A person read your application and a reference vouched for you; do not make either of them wrong.
Bigotry
Racist, sexist, homophobic, anti-trans or otherwise bigoted language or behaviour. There is no context in which this survives.
Threats and stalking
Threats, violent language, following somebody, or turning up where you were not invited.
Pressure of any kind
Unsolicited sexual images, pressure to send them, or pressure of any kind after somebody has said no.
Using members as a list
Mining the club to sell at it. Ask twice and you are warned. Ask three times and you are gone.
What we expect instead
The habits that keep the room worth being in
Say no kindly, and say it
A no in a sentence is a kindness. Silence is not, and it is the most common complaint we get.
Deliver what you agreed
An order, a swap, a commission, a licence. If it is going to be late, say so before it is late.
Turn up, or cancel with notice
A reserved seat was somebody else's seat. Cancelling is fine; disappearing costs standing.
Be who your page says you are
The same person in the club, on the storefront and at the door. That is the whole basis of the thing.
Reporting
What happens when you report somebody
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You report it
Write to hello@phyrne.app with conduct in the subject; it is the one inbox, and those are read first. Say what happened in your own words and send whatever you have. -
A person reads it that day
Conduct reports go to the front of the queue. Nothing about this is automated, and no filter decides whether a report is worth looking at. -
We act, and we tell you
A warning, a removal from a gathering, a storefront paused, or a membership ended. You are told what was done, without being asked to justify having reported it. -
Your name stays out of it
The member you reported is told what they did, not who said so. Retaliating against a reporter is itself a membership-ending thing.
I reported somebody at eleven at night expecting to hear nothing. A person wrote back the next morning, and by the afternoon he was not a member. I have never had that happen anywhere else.
Questions about the code of conduct
Does the code cover buyers and licensees too?
Is there an appeal?
What about things that happen off the platform?
Who enforces it?
Read it before you apply
It is one page, it is signed by everyone, and it is the reason the rest of this works.